or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. – 1 Corinthians 13:5 (NLT)
How would you feel if you played sports but no one kept score? And at the end of the game, you weren’t really sure who the winner was. That would be a pretty strange feeling, thinking maybe you won but not being entirely sure. In sports, we like to keep score and know who won.
However, in relationships keeping score isn’t always a good thing. You might keep track of how many times your friend borrows money and doesn’t pay you back. You might keep track of how many times you go out of your way to help your friend and your friend doesn’t return the favor. Or perhaps, you might keep track of all the times you friend said something unkind to you.
Keeping score in sports has a point, but keeping score in relationships will ruin your relationship. If you’re always recalling when someone did something wrong to you, you’ll never enjoy a relationship. You’ll be going from one relationship to another, always disappointed.
So if you have a habit of nursing wounds and keeping score in relationships you might consider the godly wisdom offered in today’s Bible verse. Choose to not pay attention to the things people have done to you and instead choose to love those around you with God’s love.